How to Spot and Stop Manipulators

Manipulative behavior is a basic building block of one form of abuse – emotional or psychological abuse. A chronic manipulator does’t need to ask you for something – you have already inferred what they want from what they are saying and doing, and gotten it for them.

Here is a good article that explains the basics of how to spot it and stop it.

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How to Spot and Stop Manipulators

Preston Ni M.S.B.A. Preston Ni M.S.B.A.
Communication Success
Posted Jun 01, 2014

Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits, and privileges at the victim’s expense.

It is important to distinguish healthy social influence from psychological manipulation. Healthy social influence occurs between most people, and is part of the give and take of constructive relationships. In psychological manipulation, one person is used for the benefit of another. The manipulator deliberately creates an imbalance of power, and exploits the victim to serve his or her agenda.

Most manipulative individuals have four common characteristics:

  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2. Once found, they use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd machinations, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. In work, social, and family situations, once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.

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